It has been my work within the community as a Registered Nurse and my own personal experiences with marriage that have led me to research the role of divorce on holistic health. Holistic health simply means affecting a person's health mentally, physically, financially, spiritually, and socially.
I have been married for 15 years now to the father of my three beautiful children. I married young and in college. I can testify how hard it is to stay married today in a world that has lost many of the values that mirror the foundations for marriage. The journey for me, has been turbulent and times, and I honestly have to say that I have contemplated divorce at one time.
The reason for my contemplation is not as important NOW as is my decision to stay and make it work. My husband and I both made mistakes that I can confess , at this time, were partly due to my own selfishness. I have learned a lot about SELF and how it plays in the demise of marriage. I hope you will allow me to share what I have learned with you at some point.
However, my belief in my marriage, my husband and most importantly in God, has led me to strive to strengthen my marriage rather than end it. However, my decision to stay may not be right for everyone. During the time that I was uncertain, a series of events took place in my life that led me on a journey with God to understand why I was placed in the circumstances that I was in. At the time, I had little money, little savings, I was sick with worry and heartache. I had no "true" home at the time where I could escape my problems, and I had no way of providing enough income to support myself and my three children. I was desolate and socially had no support (or so I thought).
I reached out to family that did not provide me with the nurturing and understanding that I needed to make it through this marital transition. I was hurting and I wanted someone to understand. However, it was God that answered me. It was He that made me realize who I was, what I wanted, and who I could be. It was He that consoled me. It was He that brought my husband and myself back together. It was He that showed me that I now have to help other women get through whatever reality confronts them. Now, I do NOT state that spirituality is the answer for everyone, but it is the answer for ME. I do not make judgements on anyone elses's situation or their beliefs because I realize how difficult it was for me. Some women stay, some women divorce. It is YOUR decision.
I decided to do research while I was in school to find out exactly how divorce affected women's health. I found out more about myself in the process. I came across family, friends, and client's that were going through marital problems and had either contemplated divorce or had gone through a divorce. It was unbelievable! The stories of these women often made me wonder what resources were available to women who were going through so much. I wanted to start my own ministry. Although, I did not have money to start a ministry, I do have knowledge and inspiration. However, by NO means will this blog be a forum to tell a woman what she should or should not do in relationship to getting a divorce, nor is it a forum to receive healthcare advice. It is simply one to support women in their decisions and to offer suggestions of how to possibly make those decisions.
WINGS was the inspiration that came to me in a dream. Women In Need of Gods Service became the basis for me getting in touch with women who are going through divorce transitions. When I say transitions, I mean the journey of getting to that decision. Some journeys end in divorce, some do not.
I want this to be a forum for positivity! This forum should allow open discussion about topics surrounding divorce and marriage and have inspirational words of encouragement and prayer for those who request it.
God Bless.
